11 Ways To Change Your Definition Of Life And Attract Positive Energy

Stress results from a wrong definition of life. For most people life stands for ‘Living in Fear Everyday’.

Insecurities and fears lead you to ignore the positives leading to a loss of self-belief. The way out of this negative spiral is to change the definition of life to ‘Living in Freedom Everyday’. By making the right choices, you attract positive people and opportunities. Given our busy schedules, it might not always be possible to pursue any single form of wellness. But you can make small changes from various forms. Motivational speaker and life coach Santosh Joshi gives some easily do-able tips.

1. Get In touch with your inner self

Master this simple meditation technique. You can do this while travelling in a bus, train or flight, or even at work. And you only need 15 minutes.

– Sit in a comfortable chair.
– Take a few deep breaths. Focus on the breath going in and out.
– Imagine that your whole body, every pore and cell is breathing. (This helps draw cosmic energy.)

2. Imbibe the power of music

Sound vibrations stir our inner being. Play spiritual music, hymns and chants as and when you can. Listen to such music while working out or jogging; your mind wouldn’t wander then.

3. Be around nature

Invest in making your living zone a green area by planting trees. Try and sign up for nature walks once in a while. Else, try and walk barefoot every day for 15 minutes at your nearest park. It’s a simple way to connect with nature. The earth element has the capacity to take away negativity.

4. Have Vibrant Colours around

Colour therapy is getting popular by the day. Colours emit vibrations that affect our psyche. Eg: Yellow gives confidence, Red signifies security, Orange signifies emotional balance and blue improves communication and intuition. Explore its benefits in daily life. Change your drapes, bed sheets, pillow covers etc with primary colours or any colour that makes you happy. Light coloured candles. Wear more vibrant hues. Choose outfits depending on the way you want to project yourself.

5. Embrace The Love of a Child

Children have a natural energy that is so vibrant that it is a blessing for most adults to experience it. Speak or share experiences daily with a child in your family and you will be well on your way to seeing life in a very different way.

6. Indulge in some laughter therapy

No need to join a laughter club, just try and have a good laugh at least 10 minutes a day. It opens up blocked energy patterns, releases feel-good hormones and is even good for certain aches and pains. So rent your favourite DVDs or comedy shows and laugh out loud.

7. Energize your house

Light a candle or diya every morning and evening. Fire has capacity to burn negative energies. Fill your house with fragrance and aromas that relax the mind. Try and have a water body. Also have open windows; the flow of air takes away negative energy.

8. Inner child therapy

Each person has an inner child within him/her. Do things you used to as a child — be it clay modelling, doodling, drawing with colour pencils/crayons or even jumping into a puddle. They help you get rid of inhibitions and help you explore new areas of life.

9. Press the right points

Based on acupressure, stimulating pressure points reduces stress. During stress, immediately press points around your eyes, your ear lobes and the point between your nose and lips. These points have a direct connection to nerve endings that control feelings of unease. Also keep pressing your palms to get immediate relief.

10. Healthy Lifestyle

The point about good sleep, healthy diet and exercise cannot be emphasised enough. If you can’t stick to a routine, at least adopt a few good practices. Like having a ‘fruit day’ occasionaly to cleanse the body. Or drinking enough water to flush out toxins. Another tip is to count your steps while walking, it improves concentration. Finally, have gratitude; Gratitude fills us with positive energy.


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Additionally, through working with media and press, PCFR intends to disseminate knowledge, bring positive change, peace, happiness and healthy human development within and outside the families.

Research and Development on Marriage and the Family

Pakistan is quite deficient in research and development in the areas of social sciences in general, and the child, marriage and the family in particular. Pakistan Council on Family Relations lays great emphasis on research and development in all family related matters. PCFR has indicated the importance of family studies with some areas for the young scholars’ guidance and thematic pursuits. By persuasive efforts of a member Board of Governors of PCFR, a subject of Family Psychology has been incorporated in BS Psychology curriculum of the Higher Education Commission, Islamabad for the first time in colleges and universities of Pakistan. PCFR invites all scholars working within and outside the educational institutions, NGOs, INGOs and other stakeholders interested in relevant fields to cooperate, coordinate, support and share knowledge on child, marriage and the family. The scholarly, thematic, educative and debatable articles of public interest may be uploaded on the PCFR web for wider publicity and education. (ref. contact us)

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Education and Training on Child Rights and Women Empowerment

Pakistani society is still at low profile in awareness and implementation of human rights/duties especially, the child, men and women rights/duties in family as envisaged in Islam and Christianity, the Constitution of Pakistan and international conventions. The issues like infant mortality, maternal mortality, morbidity, social concerns on child and woman safety and healthy development, gender equality and equity, and education and empowerment in society require great attention of everyone.

Additionally, the issues of prevailing child and woman abuse, kidnap, harassment, inheritance and holding of property rights, and further, woman participation in social and economic development with respect and dignity need special attention of society. Some traditional concepts and practices especially related to women and children that are contraindicative for healthy growth and development of our family and society need to be addressed. PCFR is motived to impart formal and informal education and training of all concerned for more awareness and improvement of respect, love and dignity to our women and children so as to develop the society a more civilized nation.


In this globalized world of today, the events, cultures, values and institutional changes in one part of the world do influence other parts of the world as well. At the same time, we have to preserve our healthy socio-cultural traditions and values concerning child, marriage and the family, and modify them according to needs of the time for our betterment. So, we should think globally and act locally. In this perspective, PCFR is willing to cooperate, coordinate and lobby with all the relevant local, provincial, national and international bodies, civil societies, organizations and governments including UNICEF and the United Nations for the Family’s human resource development.